It is healthy to have friends as an adult!
NOT Having Friends is Very Unhealthy.
I’m just writing a quick post about this. Now I’m not a doctor, but this is based on common sense. There’s always an exception, but as people, we are social creatures, some more social than others.
Family comes first, but friends are also very important.
Family and friends will be there for you, but there is a difference. Family is blood, friends aren’t, and there is a difference.
Friends Prevent Isolation
Remember Tom Hanks in Castaway?
Friends + Family = Support System
When you need support or advice, family and friends will be there for you. If you didn’t have friends, then you only have family and yourself left. If you didn’t have family, then you only have friends and yourself left. When you have both and yourself, your support system is greater. Do the math on this.
People are Social Creatures by Nature
Since the dawn of time, people have been social.
Nature creates us to be social, like a pack of wolves. A lone wolf’s life would be much harder to hunt alone compared to a pack of wolves hunting.
As with the pack of wolves, we are more successful as a group.
Friends are Not Acquaintances
There are many people with many friends, but they are really acquaintances. They may say that they have a lot of friends, but are those friends tried and true ones. Do they only reach out when they only need help, want to go do something when it’s convenient for them, or only make contact when they are bored?
Friends and Raising a Family
If you are raising a family at any age, having friends allows you to have your time with your friends. As a parent, you need to hang out with your friends, too.
Friends will tell you like it is, usually more so than your family. As we get older, we generally spend more time with our adult friends than our adult family. I’m not referring your significant other or other family members that are under the same roof.
Adulting with Friends is Harder But Not Impossible
It’s not impossible to have friends as we get older, but it can be a bit challenging.
It’s hard as an adult to have those real and true friends when we are so busy, but we NEED friends. They help with our well-being. Without friends as an adult, we do not have a network. We don’t know anyone.
Friends will tell you like it is, usually more so than your family. As we get older, we generally spend more time with our adult friends than with our adult family. I’m not referring your significant other or other family members that you may live with. But to keep friends, you simply have to reach out from time to time.
Now it doesn’t have to be always face-to-face. Communication here is the important part of it.
I don’t have immediate family close by, so when I needed someone to watch my step-son while my husband and I went to an anniversary dinner, who did I contact? A friend of mine.
Otherwise, I would have needed to hire a someone or bring a 10-year-old on anniversary dinner. Sorry, love ya, but it’s crucial to our relationship that your dad and I have some couple time!
Personal Friend Story
I have a friend that I have known for more than a decade. It’s hard to keep up with a friend on a regular basis compared to some others as my friend doesn’t do social media like most of us do. I will say, that I can become a victim of social media replacing friendship from time to time.
However, my friend and I do keep in touch, just the old-fashioned way. We pick up the phone or have a quick lunch from time to time to catch up. Our friendship isn’t based on a child’s friendship of hanging out after school every day.
Our friendship is based on a long-lasting relationship that is built on trust and respect for each other.
That’s a friendship while adulting.